When I first started seeking support, I had so many questions I wasn’t ready to ask. Maybe you can relate. Sometimes it’s because the people are new, sometimes it’s worry about how we’ll be perceived—or maybe it’s fear of judgment.
But I’ve learned that support means exactly what it says: support. No matter what that looks like for you.
With the right support, I’ve found that healing and growth happen—both individually and within a group or therapy setting. Healing, to me, is about making life more livable.
Healing Without Judgment
For a lot of us, support starts after something difficult. Sometimes we’ve had negative experiences that made us reach out for help. Unfortunately, our brains can link that negativity to the idea of support itself, making help feel connected to trauma. But they are not the same.
I like to think of support as the solution to the problem—not the problem itself. Solutions bring relief, positivity, and hope.
At Give an Hour, I’ve experienced that firsthand—a positive, safe space where I can be heard and begin to heal.
What Support Looks Like in Groups
Our groups are flexible and understanding. Participation is never required. You don’t have to turn on your camera or share unless you feel ready.
And trust me—just listening helps, probably more than you’d imagine.
By listening, I’ve found connections and realized that others face challenges similar to mine. Sometimes, simply knowing we aren’t alone in our feelings changes everything.
When I’ve felt the effects of trauma, what I missed most were connection, relation, and validation. Those are the same things that help people break free from control. Whether you choose to speak or just listen, you’ll find all three here.
Support Meets You Where You Are
If you’re still in your situation—that’s okay. Many of us are. In our groups, people come from all different stages of healing.
Wherever you are in your journey, you’ll find a safe, non-judgmental space. We don’t tolerate shaming or negativity here—only compassion and understanding.
Choosing Yourself
Support is self-care. Putting yourself first isn’t selfish—it’s necessary.
If you’re even reading this, you’re already taking the first step. I encourage you to ask yourself: Do I have time to invest in my well-being, my goals, and my future?
There are so many people healing together—not because their stories are the same, but because they share the common ground of being human.
Don’t let the “what ifs” stop you from experiencing something wonderful.
One of my favorite quotes is from Salvador Dalí:
“So little of what could happen, does happen.”
Missing out on help because of the unknown just isn’t worth it. Choosing support means choosing growth—and choosing growth will help you build the future you deserve.
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